Help - Bp spouse

[Thalia2968]

Hi there , this is my first time here. I have been struggling for years to understand my spouses behaviour. He has recently been diagnosed with BP and started out with therapy but after 3 therapists, no longer seeks help (because nobody can help). I’ve been thinking of leaving many times and staying in it for the financial side and the kids. Anyone out there in a similar position.? How do you cope?

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[Maggie17]

Hello, I am new to learning about BP but there seems to be a lot of resources online and on youtube. However, I have found that it's more difficult to find in person help and therapy. My bf also saw a therapist who was of no help. Has your husband considered seeing a psychiatrist instead? Has he specifically tried to look for someone that is familiar with BP and hopefully Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DPT)? I think this could really help with his frustrations over someone not understanding him.

[Ozzie101]

Hi Thalia! Welcome!

BPD can be so hard to understand and it's overwhelming all the information out there. That's what we're here for -- to help you on your journey, whatever path you decide to take.

I second Maggie's question. Do the therapists your H has seen specialize in BPD or in DPT? That's a key. BPD is often misunderstood, even in the therapy community, so having someone with experience can make a huge difference. Even then, finding a therapist to connect with can be difficult. In some ways, it's like finding a love mate! Sometimes you click. Sometimes you don't.