Needing support & coping tools

[Ambe222]

My daughter, 22, has BPD and my relationship with her is very close but frequently exhausting. I love her so much and am very concerned about her but feel pushed to the limit sometimes and then start to feel hopeless because I can’t sustain that level of intensity. I vacillate between being frustrated, angry, fearful, and tired with occasional glimmers of hope. I need more tools to deal with her and to take better care of myself in the process. I don’t want to stay stuck in the problem so really want to focus on proactive solutions and techniques for boundaries, communication, compassion, and self care. Any input is welcome. Thanks!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome ! Does your daughter live with you? That would up your exhaustion , understandably.  You have touched on the key;   that by helping yourself  , you help her. 
Please take a look around this website and let us know as you are able, what are some of her behaviors that you would like boundaries on ?