TMD, I am so sorry at what this might be implying.
Last year, I came across a letter from a family law attorney my uBPD H had consulted asking for client feedback. We just had a blowup where I could not keep my cool as my H bullied me, emotionally abused me, broke household items and furniture in a fit of rage. I countered with some words of my own. I was fed up. The pets were terrified and that's why I let my H have it.
BPDs do and say things because their fragile or absent self-image is threatened. They act in irrational ways with destructive behaviour. Please know you can vent here.
