Daughter with BDP

[miriam-go]

We have been having issues with my youngest daughter for years.  The issues are not just with her father and myself, but also her two older sisters.  She gets angry if we don't follow her rules
and constantly asking us to apologize for our behavior.  We use to apologize but then realized we may not be at fault.  She sends us 15 texts at time that are long diatribes how we have insulted her or were thoughtless.  We really are not sure how to proceed with communication. 
Please if you have any insight into these issues I would so like to hear.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[beatricex]

hi miriam-go,

I am sorry you are going through this. 

Just curious, do you read the texts?  I talked my husband into blocking his daughter's (my stepdaughter's) texts.  It may have been the best decision I have made 

In a real emergency, her husband can text us.  Or she can borrow someone's phone.  But it is a clear boundary that we don't want to get this sort of texts from her.

I'm not sure how old your daugther is...perhaps you can give a few more details, as this may be way off in your situation.

((miram-go)

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[BonnieW]

I could be the author of this post!  My adult daughter expects apologies from me for things that I don't even know about.  Recently, she berated me mercilessly by text message because I apparently rolled my eyes during on a FaceTime call. (I don't recall doing it, but it seems very clear to her that I did).

Through help with my therapist, I am setting up clear boundaries with her and have limited my exposure to her rants and drama.  I hope she will find the right therapist to get a proper/updated diagnosis (she has been diagnosed with ADHD) and maybe we can enjoy a healthy relationship.  Time will tell.

I wish you peace.