uBPD wife asked me to leave

[NonBPDEx]

On Oct 1 my uBPD wife of four years said she wanted me to leave - so I did.

Since then she has ghosted me - won't answer messages of any kind.

However, she has not blocked me or changed her status on any of her social media accounts. She still have the photos of us plastered on her accounts, and she is still following all my friends and family on social media.

I have emailed her and asked her to change her status on FB just so I know it is truly over, or at least message me back to let me know she is reading the emails. She has done neither.

Not sure what to make of this, or what to do...

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[kells76]

Hi NonBPDEx;

Sounds like there's a lot of ambiguity.

Could be a reflection of her inner state -- with a poor sense of self, SHE may not even know what she consistently feels, or could feel contradictory things at once. "I hate you, don't leave me".

Could be a way to feel some power/control over the situation -- "I don't have to do what NonBPDEx asks, even though it doesn't make sense that I don't".

Is your perception that she's sending mixed messages to others (like family/friends) about your relationship?

What messages would you say you're sending to family/friends/etc about your relationship with her?

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What do you hope for yourself and/or her in the future? What would you like to happen?

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(And remind me... you guys don't have shared kids, right?)

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kells76