Husband and daughter both have emotional dysregulation, living in chaos

[peacecalm]

I am walking on eggshells with both my daughter and husband. They both have emotional dysregulation and it is a constant battle in my house. I am trying to keep the peace and end up enabling both and things are not getting better. I don’t know what to do and they are both sucking the life out of me.

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[losttrust]

Wow!  I’m so sorry and many of us can relate. Your in a good place to vent and learn.  Your not alone.

How i started this educational journey in BPD was listening to books. And repeating chapters that spoke to me so I could adopt some skills. I dove into links provided on this site.  Attended a few taped BPD conferences. Faced my own part and contribution in this chaos as a enabler and began a process of change. First I Set boundaries.  More drama ensues before less I must warn you.  They don’t enjoy change nor adapt easily to you changing.  Consistency is critical.  Don’t waver   I’m on 6 months same boundaries and still reminding and holding the line. I support but no longer enable.  I take time “off”. Beach runaway solo and have my own therapist to help support me through this change. 
Hang in -  be well