Hello and welcome to the group
we're glad you found us and felt ready to reach out.
BPD can be overwhelming -- there's just no way around that, whether it's some traits and behaviors, or full-blown disorder with diagnosis. Truly, the more support you have, when there's a pwBPD (person with BPD) in your life, the better, and we're happy we can be here for you.
I just come across this board and have a recent diagnosis of BPD with my daughter. To say it’s overwhelming would be a gross understatement. We had some suspicion and now confirmation.
How old is your D? Does she live at home? What was the diagnosis process like?
I’ve been doing a deep dive as my daughter has been as well.
That stood out to me. Is your D accepting of the diagnosis? Some pwBPD find it a relief to know that there is a reason for how they feel.
everything I’ve read so far is so negative about this disorder. It’s the hardest one to treat, it’s the most debilitating, therapist won’t work with you, there’s a huge stigma… The list goes on. I’m here hoping to find the positives in this because Lord knows I need them right now.
There has been a lot of stigma in the past, which is difficult. Our focus here is on tangible things we can do -- real tools and skills -- to minimize our own contribution to the conflict and to "stop making things worse so we can start making things better". Many of the approaches for communicating effectively with a pwBPD aren't intuitive and need to be learned and practiced. Fortunately, we have a lot of resources here -- a good place to start is our section of articles on
When a teen or adult child has Borderline Personality Disorder.
Additionally, the
National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder is a reputable organization that offers support for families that have a member with BPD. Take a look at what they offer (they do have free online classes) and see if any of that sounds like a good fit.
While there are no guarantees in life, there can be hope for your situation to improve. Keep us posted on how you and your D are doing (and the rest of your family, too); we'll be here for you.
-kells76
