Sibling problem

[MrsoWiggins]

Hello, I have a younger sister, who is pretty, usually very friendly. She called me last night and I said something that made her angry. She yelled at me for about 3 minutes (I said nothing) and then hung up on me. I know I have BPD, know that my immediate feelings are not healthy— but all I can think about is ignoring her going forward, with polite nothingness when we do meet up.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Pook075]

Hello and welcome.

In family dynamics, it's pretty easy to sometimes feel like a victim when someone says or does something that we don't like.  At the end of the day though, it's important to realize that family is more important than the small things that sometimes make us angry at each other.  I'd encourage you to forgive your sister and apologize if you did something to upset her.  In these situations, it's not as important to determine "right and wrong" as much as it is to move on and let go of stuff that just doesn't matter.

With my BPD daughter, she'll often let small conflicts ruin important relationships in her life because it's easier than just apologizing and letting it go.  It's easily her biggest struggle and something she's worked a lot on in recent years.  Hopefully that helps.