She thinks that me taking a Sunday for myself equates me not wanting to see her. I have not seen my friends or family in months because all my energy is spent on her and work. My cup is empty. Every time I do something for myself it is an issue because it is seen as an inconsistency. She does not seem to want to compromise either because "If it's not like it was before I don't want it". This is extremely hurtful to hear. I understand I created some patterns base don my people pleasing and attachment and I'm now trying to find a healthy balance, but it seems like an impossible task.
All I want is to be a good support for her while having the space to work on myself.
Hello subwaytune! I`m truly sorry that you find yourself in this difficult situation.
When your cup is empty, it can be very difficult to be a support to someone else in a healthy way. What does filling your cup look like to you? That`s where your focus should be.
What can I do? I struggle setting and keeping boundaries. I let people walk all over me.
Can you give an example of struggling with a boundary? Have you tried doing it in the past? What happened, and how did you feel?
