Sexual abuse

[whereisthezen]

How many of you know if your SO experienced childhood sexual abuse?

Mine did. Doesn't mention it at all though.

[patientandclear]

Mine did.  I am certain it is a cause of his instinct that anyone who wants to get close to him is going to harm him or has a hidden agenda.

[grad]

my uBPDex and her 1 y/o older sister were both physically and sexually abused by their step-father between 4-7

[Hiloguy]

Mine was sexually abused by her father and has three years missing from her childhood memory. Her sister was the one that told me.

[cal644]

Mine had sexual abuse from 18 months - 1st grade almost daily and in every way imaginable from an older boy her mom babysat for - I have a feeling that something more happened.  I did not find out about any of this until she had a breakdown 15 years into our marriage. She has also told me I only know 1/10th of what her chidhood was like - and what I know is bad enough.  :'(

[elessar]

yup. mine did at the hands of 5 of her uncles for 3 years - age 9 to 12.

[pixiepie]

mine didn't but I did. He expresses rage on the one had about this happening 'to me' and on the other is completely insensitive about the emotional damage. I have been told however that his sisters allege sexual abuse from their dad but he says he doesn't beleive it.

[blecker]

Yes she did. Late adolesence, early teens.

She somehow still craved his approval until he died.

Tragic how illness breeds illness.

What can break such chains?

[rogerroger]

Sexual abuse is thought to be a very common factor in the development of personality disorders. In the case of my BPD-x2b, it was impossible to determine whether she was abused, since she told so many lies about her abusive childhood that the truth couldn't be reliably distinguished from all the lies.

[whereisthezen]

Thanks for all the comments/feedback. Since most confirm SA is a major contributor, do you ever wonder how some survivors manage not to have BPD and actually seek therapy when they cannot get past such a horrible event?

[daze]

My pwBPD told me a couple of months ago that he was abused by a teenage female babysitter at a very young age.  As in under 4 or 5.  He told me the story and said he didn't consider it sexual abuse or molestation.  Very disturbing.