why do I do this to myself

[cj8121]

I don't understand why I keep doing this.  Why doesn't my BPDh ever have to acknowledge what he does? Why do I always have to watch and weigh everything I say and do?  Who do I go to when I need a soft place to fall?  I feel like I am raising another child.  I got married so I would have a partner in this life.  When I chose to stay after everything he has put me thru over 28 years I guess I thought some how I would find the guy I married.  It seems to get worse with age. Tonite we took my daughters car to be shipped to Orlando where she will be attending school. We leave with her Monday.  she our last of 3 daughters to be going away.  I am so sad and worried about her. He comes home has a melt down over it cause it's getting closer to her going. I said I know your upset so am I he replays "I'm upset about alot of things" I said I'm only thinking of her that's why I'm sad he flipped said he wishes he had that luxury of only worrying about one thing.  I really needed to have someone there for me.  now he's not speaking to me. Whats up with that.

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[pallavirajsinghani]

We are here for you.  We are the soft place for you to land.

My children are 15 and 13.  The older one is already talking about going to college.  When they go to school these days I wander around the house pretending as if they have already left.  It is indeed bitter sweet even for me to anticipate this.  On the one hand you have a cause for celebration... .  on the other hand you have no distraction now and have to face your the reality of your marital relationship.

Hope we can help.  Sending both congratulations and sympathy... .  for raising a bright child who is beginning to test her wings and sympathy because it also means a loss of her daily companionship and concern over her well-being.

Sending lots of hugs: