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March 31, 2013, 07:39:12 AM »
After ST and break up 3 weeks ago, my pwBPD doesnot answer texts and call .She used to answer before within 5 minutes.
But, for last 3 days, she is posting photos on facebook which are in some way connected to our happy days last year.
I am going nuts trying to understand what is she trying to communicate?
Possibilities:
(1)She has a relacement(no evidence of it) and is deliberately misleading me.
(2)She is saying I have moved on... even those lovely pictures of you and me doesnot affect me now... so I can even post in on FB.
(3)She wants to send indirect message that says i want YOU to contact me and say sorry and I am still open for the r/s? In other words,fight for me.
Which one you think is most likely?
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(1)She has a relacement(no evidence of it) and is deliberately misleading me.
It can never really be ruled out, but for a new chick to be posting prior relationship photos on FaceBook is weird even for a BPDer
(2)She is saying I have moved on... even those lovely pictures of you and me doesnot affect me now... so I can even post in on FB.
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(3)She wants to send indirect message that says i want YOU to contact me and say sorry and I am still open for the r/s? In other words,fight for me.
The most likely. She probably wants you to contact her and apologize. If you give her the time of day and when that falls apart, she'll say "I even put our photos on FaceBook and this is how you treat me... . ".
The best thing to do if you intend to stay broken up is to just unfriend her. That shows her you've moved on. Mine unfriended me before I even left; I have no idea when. At least she knows that she no longer has you as an audience.
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Thank you locked out for response. She is giving me total access to her FB account .She created this a/c with half her name and half my name for the userID and have never blocked it even at height of dysregulation.
Now, she is posting pics showing how busy she is doing community service with her girlfriends. Appears happy and smiling. So puzzling.
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stop analyzing it because it's just a guessing game and you have no idea what she's thinking or what her intentions are.
she's ignoring your messages because she wants to punish you and the pictures are just to hurt you further. she's angry, upset, and in a vindictive mode right now. she knows she has complete control of the situation and is using it against you because you hurt her.
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Its a game. She is trying to get a reaction out of you. "like"
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picture if you want a chance at a recycle or take her off facebook if you cant be assed.
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