KellyO
And your children understand and see more you know. And children tend to blame themselves for what ever happenes. It is crazy, but that is actually thruth that any professional can tell you. They grow up being adults with shame, guilt, anxiety and depression. They get disordered themselves or they find disordered partners because they coped by getting codependent.
KellyO,
Thank you so much for your honesty and courage! Children have an egocentric view of the world and when all is normal it is a brilliant mechanism. They look to parents to define themselves. When all is healthy, they get a healthy sense of self, when it is not, they get a very dysfunctional sense of self. They are wired this way.
By sharing so honestly, I think you will help so many see clearly that by staying you are allowing your children to be abused and condemning them to a lifetime of overcoming that abuse. Even potentially, creating more BPDers.
Thank you again for being so very brave and honest! I pray you will be blessed with peace, health and continued healing. You have done a beautiful, brave thing tonight.
