What are some coping tools for pwBPD?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

H would like to learn some coping skills.  However, what are some that a pwBPD can learn/do?

For instance, when they find themselves in a frustrating positon (long lines, etc), what can they do to "chill out"?

breathing techniques?

what?

[SadWifeofBPD]

H would like to learn some coping skills.  However, what are some that a pwBPD can learn/do?

For instance, when they find themselves in a frustrating positon (long lines, etc), what can they do to "chill out"?

breathing techniques?

what?

[Chosen]

First of all, it's a good sign that your H would like to learn coping skills.  However, be aware that he is an adult and he should be responsible for coping with negative emotions.  Say if you suggest a way to him and he doesn't use it/ isn't "good" at it, then he may in turn blame you.

I think you can just share what you do for yourself to chill out, rather than give him some textbook answers.  You can tell him "I get frustrated too when there's a long queue... . usually I just put on some music and start singing along in my head to make the time go by, and it helps me feel better."  (just an example)  Then it sounds like something you're doing and that is working for you, rather than you prescribing it to him.

[briefcase]

You can look through these resources for ideas.

Resources for BPD Sufferers