Dealing with separation threats

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Just had a discussion about this with PDw last night and she was all for it until... . I added in a little caveat that the person living in the house had to pay for all of the household expenses during the seperation... .  She QUICKLY decided that maybe we could work all of this out without the seperation thing... . Her plans of being able to do what she wanted to do when she wanted got squashed if she had to pay ALL of the bills... . She quickly calmed down, the raging stop and all became well again... . hmmmmmmmmmmm... .

[bruceli]

Just had a discussion about this with PDw last night and she was all for it until... . I added in a little caveat that the person living in the house had to pay for all of the household expenses during the seperation... .  She QUICKLY decided that maybe we could work all of this out without the seperation thing... . Her plans of being able to do what she wanted to do when she wanted got squashed if she had to pay ALL of the bills... . She quickly calmed down, the raging stop and all became well again... . hmmmmmmmmmmm... .

[empower-me]

Well,

I guess you can enjoy the quiet time while it lasts?  Did you want to do the whole separation thing?  If so, usually the spouse will try to still cover some of the financial responsibilities realizing it is for the greater good of the r/s.

If you wanted to do this temporarily til things calmed down or whatnot, you could offer to contribute some to the overhead.  This way you would still be making an effort to support the household and the relationship while taking a break.

It sounded fair to me when I went through it.   Just my opinion on the subject matter.  e-m