What's your worst break up then back together?

[Relentless]

What's the worst break you ever had with your BPD partner and then got back together?

Silent treatment? NC? If so who initiated, how long? Who broke it?

Did they seem to hate you? Anything else to add?

How many break ups before? Anyone end up successfully recovering the r/s? Become friends?

[simplyasiam]

im on recycle number 15. everyone was bad and about the same. she hated me missed me need me loved me hated me left and over and over again.

this one started 3 months ago  at one point we went 30 days n/c i was balck as could be .this has been the worst one she went way to far rent new home with new b/f. hes black now she wants away from him and wants me back.

we talk every day now and she starting to come clean about lies she told and starting to talk about help. will have to see where it gos

[papawapa]

We were together for twelve years. I can't count the number of times we recycled. It was at least once a year, more like three or four for about four years in the middle until I figured out not to leave. The worst break up was when we got in a fight and I had to go to the hospital because her adult son assaulted me. I came home in the morning to find her in bed with another man. The last, and current, split up is close behind. I got tired of her hit and made her take her stuff and leave. She ran off with this guy her daughter had broke up with the day before. This prompted me to file an emergency custody order and take our two kids from her. This last week she has started talking to me again. She wants out and says she is willing to follow through with the order of the court and go to treatment for her drug and drinking problem and enter therapy for her other issues. She has a psych eval at the end of this month and I am hopeful that she will be diagnosed and get into DBT. At this point it looks like the threat of losing her kids forever has been enough to get her to face herself.

[simplyasiam]

papa, i feel your pain wish you the best in rest of your life

[Moonie75]

Simplyasiam,

You mean she started the recycle three months ago & you've kept her 'at arms length' till she coughs the truth?

If so I'm surprised at a BPD not giving up & running again.

[Gaslit]

The worst break up was when we got in a fight and I had to go to the hospital because her adult son assaulted me. I came home in the morning to find her in bed with another man. The last, and current, split up is close behind.

The hospital trip / coming home to her being in bed with some other dude was not the last one?

[papawapa]

No, sorry to say that was not the last one. My psychiatrist told me in the hospital that he believed she had BPD. I started therapy, she promised she would but never followed through. I stuck it out for the kids and because I could not bring myself to leave them in her care. We were never married and in the state we live that meant I had ZERO parental rights. I now have the kids and have been able to use them as leverage to get her to finally get help for herself.

[Relentless]

I don't even know if mine will ever come back at this point. We had a ton of inside jokes... . We laughed together about so much, we did a ton together... . But ya. She's been giving silent treatment for 2 weeks straight now. I wonder why me... Why so much pain. I thought she would be the one. Anyways... . I really miss her companionship. I hold she comes back at least as a friend.

[Relentless]

What about their parents? Did you go from being liked to disliked and back? Anyone? Right now that's a big worry of mine. That I'm being vilified.

[Relentless]

Today I found out from her room mate that she said she was done with me, and that it was a situation she didn't want to be in... .

She said that I was a great bf, and I did a lot of great things... . but I wasn't the guy she thought I was... .

WTH! Ugh, it hurts. I then found out she's been telling all her friends to not talk to me and said that she is scared of me etc.

Do they ever come back around after hit like this? (not necessarily romantically... . but at all? Will she split me white again after a long time of realizing she is blowing some stupid ass thing way out of proportion?)

I'm actually mad right now!

[bruceli]

im on recycle number 15. everyone was bad and about the same. she hated me missed me need me loved me hated me left and over and over again.

this one started 3 months ago  at one point we went 30 days n/c i was balck as could be .this has been the worst one she went way to far rent new home with new b/f. hes black now she wants away from him and wants me back.

we talk every day now and she starting to come clean about lies she told and starting to talk about help. will have to see where it gos

So... . this is how this works... . In this one now... .