Heart versus Brain, help...

[Purgatorii]

I'm in a vulnerable place mentally right now, and I NEED some input or perspective?

Me boyfriend and I had a MAJOR blow out this morning. In the last few weeks he's let his anger get the better of him. He has shown red flags such as verbal and emotional abuse  I'm currently separated from my almost 4 year marriage to my husband, and agreed dating was allowed during this time.

All things aside, I'm feeling vulnerable and now my head and heart are confusing me... .I miss my boyfriend, but he hurt me deeply with these forms of abuse... I'm at a standstill. Do I listen to my head- based on the truth that he can be abusive and I don't need to take that? Or my heart- based on pure emotions choking me with lonliness, sadness and craving to feel loved and wanted/needed? ... .please, help

[JayReader27]

Your head is never wrong. I am not certain what your exact situation is but, abuse never gets better. If he has shown you that he is abusive then believe him the first time. Do NOT settle for less than you are worth. Your heart hurts because, you know how things could be. Don't fall into the abuse trap. There are other fish in the sea. Go keep fishing.

[ArleighBurke]

Do I listen to my head- based on the truth that he can be abusive and I don't need to take that? Or my heart- based on pure emotions choking me with lonliness, sadness and craving to feel loved and wanted/needed?

All your heart statements are "I'm lonely" - nothing about "I love him"... .