Since my dad is turning 65 in October (during hunting season, so he will not be around us on his birthday), we decided that we would take a family trip in January 2014. My dBPDh is more than welcome to come but he doesn't want to (to tell you the truth, I didn't expect him to say yes).
My dBPDh was telling this to his T , she just looked at him and told him that she thinks he should go with us, it would be an amazing way to celebrate his progress too... .
He said he just looked at her and laughed. She spent the whole session on making him see his immense progress.
Having said that, he's still not coming but he's more than OK with me going.
He knows that I'm not abandoning him, that I'm not making him "pay" for anything he did or say and that we really would love to see him with us, but we respect his decision... . things he wouldn't have believed even 6 months ago.
Like I've said before, now that his BPD in calm and he's got his tools to get control back before it's too late, life is truly better. I just wish the physical health would be too.
