First rant that didn't hurt me

[Mcgddss]

So I have been working hard at setting boundaries and my soon to be ex uBPDh has been pushing the limits.

I have limited our communication to email and due to recent events I needed to email a reminder of my chosen boundaries.

My email of 139 words was met with a 1,085 word rant.  10 times what I wrote.

It didn't matter.  He went on and on and on.  I didn't care. 

I am hopeful that my children (d8 and s5) don't bear the brunt of his anger tonight.  We are currently sharing our children so I am forced to leave them with him.

I have no idea how to handle his parenting.  I am currently 100% hands off with what he does because we are still working on the divorce. 

But for today, I am calling this a victory.   

[crystal]

DEFINITE VICTORY!  good for you!

And you will find it spirals up!  Not getting hurt/not engaging leaves you more emotional energy for positive things!

There will be back steps as well--but this is a huge step forward.And now that you know you can do it, it may be just a little easier next time that you start to feel hurt-- reflect on this moment and owrk toward disengaging

[Free One]

Way to go!