Weird happenings post fight.. what’s your story?

[Diana82]

I had a rather big fall out with my exBPD a month ago. She had previously avoided me and then told me she missed me. I decided to ask her about her ‘disappearing’ act... and it started a war of raging and blaming.

Then she decided to ignore me. Yet I saw her one week riding along my street on her bike!   And 2 weeks later, both of her ex casual flings have tried to add me to Facebook.

And she has deleted me off Facebook. Go figure.

I still haven’t heard a word from her... but I seem to have these strange things happening.

Anyone else experienced some weird post-fight or post breakup behavior?  Have you been contacted by their friends or exes? Or have they tried to stalk you?

[Undone123]

I spoke with one of my exes exes... .It was really because I was in the midst of a smear campaign, and I needed validation that she was crazy!

The ex gave me that validation... .and I was very grateful for it, as I was not going to get it anywhere else

[Diana82]

Hey

I understand what you mean... it was quite comforting to know that other women have experienced her ‘disappearing’ act. Wasn't just me... .

I suppose you like to think you’re different though... and treated better than the others.

[Undone123]

Hey

I understand what you mean... it was quite comforting to know that other women have experienced her ‘disappearing’ act. Wasn't just me... .

I suppose you like to think you’re different though... and treated better than the others.

I actually found comfort in being just the same as the others... .A massive red flag for me was "you are my soul mate" within the first month at the same time she had a photo with her ex on her pictures on Facebook with him saying "aren't we a happy family"... .That suggested to me I wasn't the only soul mate. In fact I was one of nine previous soul mates. But my ex was very good at crazy making. Making me question everything about myself, about my sanity and concept of self. She used to say things like "you don't even know who you really are"... .

Anyway the ex said to me "dude she will make you question everything about yourself. Go from one extreme to the other"... .And it was soo comforting to know that he had had the exact same!

[Diana82]

It is comforting...

But what is weird is that they are flirting with me now! One girl has stopped talking about my ex disappearing on her... and said “Lets talk about you... we should be friends!  You look fabulous... ”



And then even asked me out to an event next week.  I can only think that she’s trying to seek revenge on my ex by flirting with me! I’m not buying into the flirting thing

[myself]

I can only think that she’s trying to seek revenge on my ex by flirting with me!

This could be. Or she may be interested in you. Or she may be on a BPD style fishing expedition of her own. X's of X's sounds like they are crossing themselves out.