Turn of events

[irriserv]

My divorce was final back in April 2013 and as one would expect the last 10 months have been crazy.  Things have gone up down sideways and everything in between.

We currently have a shared parenting agreement with a week off and week on arrangement.  The reality has been about 70/30 towards me as she has little ability to do anything except cause disruption.

About 4 months ago a new guy showed up on the seen.  He was "creepy" but could not figure out much more about him.

As time went on I tried to figure out who he was and what he was about with little luck due to false names and a lot of deception.

Last week she devalued him and tossed him out.  He started stalking her and I got in touch with him and tried to defuse the situation a bit.

Well as it turns out he is a criminal, spent a lot of time in the slammer for drugs, assault, etc and he told her from day one about his issues.

She still allowed him to move in with my kids, got my kids to lie about his identity, and put them in danger.

I really never though she would do something like this with the kids.  Is this common?  It really is not something I would expect.

[Nope]

I don't know if it is common but it's been my experience that the kids BPD mom goes through boyfriends pretty regularly and doesn't wait at all to bring them around the kids. The last long term relationship she had was four years and that one was seven years younger than her about 20 years old at the start) and didn't have a driver's license due to a DUI and was apparently into drugs. When a pwBPD gets into a relationship it is very common that at first that person can do no wrong and is painted totally white.