Anxiety disorder

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Anxiety disorder is one of the souvenirs from my BPD relationship. I panic a lot if I get a parking ticket or ... .

"Anxiety disorder only exist because you've become adept at dissociating from other vital emotions (like anger)."

Shari scheiber

So true!

[Pearl55]

Anxiety disorder is one of the souvenirs from my BPD relationship. I panic a lot if I get a parking ticket or ... .

"Anxiety disorder only exist because you've become adept at dissociating from other vital emotions (like anger)."

Shari scheiber

So true!

[fromheeltoheal]

I agree with Shari, and there are other things we can do to help; sensitive, intelligent people, like us, tend to get anxious more than most.  Things that help include getting enough exercise and sleep, eating right, reducing or eliminating caffeine, nicotine and alcohol, getting enough calcium and magnesium, and meditating, which can be as simple as practicing relaxing and turning your brain off.

[Turkish]

Anxiety disorder is one of the souvenirs from my BPD relationship. I panic a lot if I get a parking ticket or ... .

"Anxiety disorder only exist because you've become adept at dissociating from other vital emotions (like anger)."

Shari scheiber

So true!

I felt like I had a small anxiety attack when posting here from work yesterday... . tight chest, pulse quickening, extreme nervousness. or maybe it was this morning, don't remember. I'll screw myself if I don't get her gone soon (her new housing is processing everything), because I have a huge, high visibility project for the next 6 months. I can't compartmentalize and split my persona like she does. I've been doing better though in keeping it together. My brilliant financial plan to survive with minimal impact to myself for the CS fell through. The burglary, her idiot texting her that night and me seeing it, our fight/argument (which isn;t near as bad as some of you have, you'd probably laugh if you watched it... . or maybe not, I don;t know). Sigh. It will get better... . at least the kids are with me this evening while she is "working" maybe, maybe not, As long as stuff doesn't get thrown in my face, I don't care at this point. If I kick the bucket all of a sudden, she'll be set for 30 years if she's smart. Still haven't adjusted all of my beneficiaries for LI, retirement, etc... .

I'm normally calm as a clam, too (in this, SHE's lucky!). Very unsettling.

[Pearl55]

I stayed far too long Turkish. When I saw a psychiatrist for the first time he told me " run and don't look back" but I struggled a lot. First, It has to be proved to myself, that was a mistake. Second, it was very hard because of my son.

When I saw my psychiatrist later on he told me " I was honest with you, I could give you false hopes and was beneficial for me to drag both of you to therapy sessions and waste your time, energy and money but I don't play with people's feelings"

I've got high blood pressure, anxiety disorder, sever depression,... . because of somebody who's absolutely worthless!

[CoasterRider]

LOL after my ex stopped coming to counseling with me after 3 sessions claiming it "wasnt going anywhere" I returned alone and continued to go by myself. I asked her "what should I do if he comes back a 3rd time" to which she promptly replied "RUN"

Your therapist seems like an honest person. Lucky to have found them!

My therapist said in my last session she was thinking about things more and said the best thing my ex ever could have done for me was leave my life. Because a chance at a normal healthy relationship with him was never going to be a reality until he starts to be honest with himself and look inward. The relationship was going to continue to be more like an adoption with me being the parent and him being the child, than a partnership.

Pretty revolutionary stuff for our self esteem when we hear it from them, wouldnt you agree?