i always benefit from hearing testimonies like these. the bit from :50 to 1:10 is important. the last time we met my w was still going on about habits i'd stopped ages ago and events that were years old and that i had acknowledged and/or apologized for more times than i can count. this was the one quality about her behavior that she seemed to have an inkling about, that she never forgets and can never forgive and "maybe that's just the way i am." (and of course she admitted nothing about how she contributed). everything i had done of a loving nature went down the memory hole. 'demeaned' doesn't begin to describe how i felt.
i also second what 481 wrote:
I feel very sorry for this lady, just as I'd feel sorry for anyone who is genuinely suffering. Within context of BPD, it is truly an act of incredible courage to come out and admit it openly.
However, do notice that even this confession is quite egocentric. She is not sorry that her children lost her mother. She is sad about herself losing them. Her husband, who probably took unbelievable emotional abuse was mentioned in exactly one sentence. But still, that too is a given to BPD sufferers.
Sadly, we need to remember that she is just a drop in the ocean of people who did unspeakable acts to those who loved them, most of whom will never even acknowledge, much less repair or make up for incredible destructions they did. But this lady at least gave people around her a fair chance to decide if they want to take upon a lifetime responsibility of supporting her.
I agree with one more thing - there needs to be much more awareness about BPD - each innocence saved is worth the effort.
