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« on: January 31, 2014, 12:33:29 AM »

(sorry ... but I did not know where to post this so feel free to re-locate it)

"My name is Tami Green and I have border line personality disorder" …. as she speaks at the congressional hearing.

Wow…. when I saw this I was shocked … I thought , … here is a person that is giving a speech and outright admits her issues…. my ex would never admit she is BPD nor an alcoholic.    NEVER   …

I really like the part where she states that she has lost her children. 
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« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2014, 12:40:02 AM »

Maybe I'm still not far enough along emotionally with this, but hearing borderlines talk about having BPD really irritates me. They have such a "yeah, so what?" attitude about their actions. I can't stand it. They want to destroy everything in their path and then have you feel sorry for them afterward because "they can't help it". So, they act awful and then want sympathy because they don't like it when people hold them accountable for their actions. It's insulting to people who have had to endure their wrath.

This lady might be sincere and enlightening. I just have a hard time feeling sorry for any borderline.
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« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2014, 01:11:03 AM »

yes, … I feel the exact same way. They launch a barrage of mini-nuclear bombs in the vicinity of those around them and then really cannot take any responsibility for their def-con 1 actions.  But i just found this youtube vid interesting in that here was a person actually admitting things. To me this was bizarre. My wife (and each and every one of her blood relatives) reminds me of Fonzie from the sitcom Happy Days where there is no way ever that an apology or admittance of being wrong is every carried out.
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« Reply #3 on: January 31, 2014, 09:25:04 AM »

I feel very sorry for this lady, just as I'd feel sorry for anyone who is genuinely suffering. Within context of BPD, it is truly an act of incredible courage to come out and admit it openly.

However, do notice that even this confession is quite egocentric. She is not sorry that her children lost her mother. She is sad about herself losing them. Her husband, who probably took unbelievable emotional abuse was mentioned in exactly one sentence. But still, that too is a given to BPD sufferers.

Sadly, we need to remember that she is just a drop in the ocean of people who did unspeakable acts to those who loved them, most of whom will never even acknowledge, much less repair or make up for incredible destructions they did. But this lady at least gave people around her a fair chance to decide if they want to take upon a lifetime responsibility of supporting her.

I agree with one more thing - there needs to be much more awareness about BPD - each innocence saved is worth the effort.
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« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2014, 12:05:11 PM »

i always benefit from hearing testimonies like these. the bit from :50 to 1:10 is important. the last time we met my w was still going on about habits i'd stopped ages ago and events that were years old and that i had acknowledged and/or apologized for more times than i can count. this was the one quality about her behavior that she seemed to have an inkling about, that she never forgets and can never forgive and "maybe that's just the way i am." (and of course she admitted nothing about how she contributed). everything i had done of a loving nature went down the memory hole. 'demeaned' doesn't begin to describe how i felt.

i also second what 481 wrote:

I feel very sorry for this lady, just as I'd feel sorry for anyone who is genuinely suffering. Within context of BPD, it is truly an act of incredible courage to come out and admit it openly.

However, do notice that even this confession is quite egocentric. She is not sorry that her children lost her mother. She is sad about herself losing them. Her husband, who probably took unbelievable emotional abuse was mentioned in exactly one sentence. But still, that too is a given to BPD sufferers.

Sadly, we need to remember that she is just a drop in the ocean of people who did unspeakable acts to those who loved them, most of whom will never even acknowledge, much less repair or make up for incredible destructions they did. But this lady at least gave people around her a fair chance to decide if they want to take upon a lifetime responsibility of supporting her.

I agree with one more thing - there needs to be much more awareness about BPD - each innocence saved is worth the effort.

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