I have a 32 year old daughter with BP

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Hi jellibeans, no my daughter does not have ODD. As a matter of fact she was a gentle, submissive child until her junior year of high school when I started noticing some changes in her behavior and then two years later she was diagnosed with BPD.

The letter is something I have to work on. I need to go back to V.Porr's book, read the guidelines and put it together.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

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Do you think something could have happened to her at the time? During jr high? Is there something she is hiding? because of shame? I know it is not always the case that there was some kind of trama but sometimes there is. I sent my dd16 a letter when she was in RTC and it really help us... . I can see my daughter distancing herself when she gets older too... . she is just waiting to get out of this hell hole... .

It is the nature of the beast I guess... . my dd16 is still a work in progress and I am running out of time.

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I don't know if anything happened to her in junior high but she did get pregnant in senior high and had the baby after graduation. My son says she feels bad about her teenage pregnancy. I do not know how she really feels about it.

I'm also running out of time and patience.

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That might be it... . my daughter carries a lot of shame with her... . did she give up the baby?

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She did not give up the baby, she had it and the child is now 15 and so far does not have a personality disorder.