Court Tomorrow

[crumblingdad]

Some questions might be what their experience with BPD has been.  Find out whether they will have one counselor or several for your DD and if they determine treatment as a team or one individual leading the way (team approach is much better since pwBPD typically can split and impact individuals involved in their treatment so well).

Will they do any psych testing and what is their approach on the meds side and how often will she be seeing/meeting a psychiatrist.

Id also ask what the involvement of the family is in the process as including all of you tends to be very helpful.

Just some passing ideas - so hopeful for you and your dd and family. You've been so strong and such a terrific mom through this difficult process.  Keep your chin up!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[raytamtay3]

 Warning: typing from phone. Thanks everyone! And crumblingdad, thank you for your helpful advice and knowledge in this process. I always get excited hearing how thingsbare going with ur dd as well as ur replies to my posts. Have a great weekend everyone! Gettong ready to go visit dd. 

[crumblingdad]

You, your daughter and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers - Sending positive hopeful thoughts your way and hope your visit goes well.   

[pessim-optimist]

Raytam,

This is wonderful news!  You are doing great - doing what's best for your dd... .

I am not so very sure about the questions to ask, but ljbnltx mentioned in one of the threads that asking for references and then checking those out is a good idea.

Also, there are lots of threads on RTC's here:

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=4.0

Many have good suggestions and info, there are also different links to different RTC's that are available.

[raytamtay3]

I went to see DD yesterday afternoon. She looked great. But it didn't got too well. She immediately started about not going to participate in RTC and how she would have if she did partial placement.  That I'm the one who convinced the judge to make her go.  How she was planning on turning her life around before all this. How now she won't be able to start high school. I first tried to validate her feelings. She would not let me get a word in. Every time I triest to speak, she told me I was interrupting her.  It's because she wasn't hearing what she wanted to hear. I stayed firm. When she said how she was planning on turning her life around before all this, I told her that I legitimately believe she wants to.  But that she needs to learn the skills to make it happen, and that's where RTC comes in.  She didn't want to hear it. And she told me to leave at one point, so I got up, put my coat on, and was about to leave. She then told me I could stay a little longer. But she just continued the badgering. She even told me that I couldn't hang up on her. Basically saying I was trapped. But I proved I was not when I later put my coat back on and left after telling her I refused to play ring around the rosey with her. So that was the end of that. I didn't call her today either. I've decided I am going to let her contact me if she wants.  Not looking forward to Wednesday.

[jellibeans]

Dear Ray

Your post reminds me so much of my dd... . badger... . negotiate... . barter... . you did well Ray... . I might have just left when she told me to the first time so she can understand that you are listening and that it would be best to pick her words carefully. She is in a place where she has no control so she is trying to order you around... . that probably makes her feel better... . she is probably really scared too. Hang in there ... . you are doing great.

[MammaMia]

Raytam

Your dd is getting the message.  Keep up the good work.