Hi AllisG wow I have a lot of stories and experiences with FB. Ill share some with you.
FB was how I met up again with my ex BPD although we grew up together many years ago. Throughout the 4 months we were together, he defriended me 4 times then requested again. He didn't ever block me though
I public posted a lot and I think he wanted to still stalk me. Towards the end he had added quite a few of my friends and family. He defriended me whenever I was painted black and he wanted distance. Once it was because I was tagged in a photo a few guys were in. Our last month together he posted so many photos of me on FB I lost count. He's a professional photographer so they were beautiful, but I was uncomfortable with all that attention. He posted photos of other models too. The week before our final split we were away together and the photos he posted clearly showed we were in a relationship. Lots of kissing, cuddling in beautiful surroundings. I was so happy. On the day of the split he posted about 10. One if my friends saw and said its lovely I'd met a man. I told him this via phone and he immediately freaked out, deleted every single photo of me. Wiped me. I rang him to see what was wrong and he said " were just friends" I hung up, and that ended our whatever the hell it was. Three weeks later he reported 3 photos of us kissing. I ignored and remained NC . A week later he posted a nude of me. I broke NC and called and asked him to remove it, he did. A week later I deactivated my account after discovering he was replacing me with my best friend. Still NC contact with him. Three weeks after u deactivated I reactivated in the middle of the night for a quick peek to check the photo situation and I discovered he has defriended me. I can't see now if he posts any further photos but my friends will tell me. I've stayed off FB now I come on here instead. He used FB to inbox my friends and family and try to get them onside claiming he only ever wanted friendship with me. He has painted me black but not too badly thank god.
I no longer have my friendship with my best friend, that's over. I hate that he's using FB to talk to my friends behind my back. And I feel very vulnerable about the photos he might post on a whim ( especially the nudes)
I never defriended him from FB I was always a bit scared this would get a bad reaction. So deactivating was my only option. I feel for you because they stalk you and are too much in your face. Only you can decide what will work best for you. I hope my story helps a bit. Take care
