Ex has made contact on wattsapp

[goodmann11]

Hi fellow nons and sufferers... . I have posted on here many times since last February having danced with the BPD devil for 3 years now. We parted at the beginning of the year after a rollercoaster ride through heaven and hell. Since then apart from the devaluation, attempted blackmail, blaming, slander and abuse in the first 3 months it all went quiet when I presume that she had found a replacement victim.

There were attempts by me to fix it when I panicked and realised that she had split me black. Her turning up twice drunk I thought to make amends see me and have sex. There was only abuse at that time and her opportunity to use me as a filler but I took this as her wanting to see me... . How naïve of me.

I went no contact and as I presume she was busy it was reciprocated. Only for me to text a simple happy birthday a month ago... . silly me. I got a simple and Thank U and have left it as that.

Please fellow sufferers be aware I do not want this woman back in my life she is a toxic and dangerous person. She drove her car into my house, assaulted me and police officers who attended. Lost her licence for 2 years and is 30k bankrupt. Of her own admission had had over 70 sexual partners by 30. I was just physically attracted to her at the time and she was 17 years younger than me. At the time she gave me what I thought I was looking for.

I would like to start dating again and 2 days ago downloaded wattsapp. This morning I wake up and instinctively check my phone. A message from her "WOW I know why you are on here". More then that... . a pic of someone I don't even recognise any more. A selfie that shows she has lost weight, looks drawn and her chin is more pointy, is heavily made up, dark rings under her dark empty eyes, pursed lips painted dark red and the most evil look witch like persona.

I realised that I have kind of seen this look in the early days when I met her but as she mirrored me she softened a bit and hid that side of her. She has some tag line about what God has put her through in life but followed by a smiley face.

I was shocked to see her staring back at me but seeing her back as she really is it kind of gave me some closure and confirmed yet again what I had let into my life. The pic is in her mums kitchen (where she went back to live yet again!) so I am going to take a guess here. Her new beau has had enough all ready. She has had a good run around had lots of sex drink and drunks and in now on a come down. Despite all the make up she looks ill.

Why would she make contact we me?... You are right I am not entirely over her but no way could I allow I have her back in my life or anyone like her. She should come with a warning. she looks to be in Witch/Queen mode frightening. The waif and hermit I could deal with.

Thank you to this site in enlightening me and providing so much information and evidence. I will not reply to her message and dance with this devil again. This is a stranger to me someone I don't know and never did know.

One of her parting comments was "you don't me" How chilling!

     

     

[goodmann11]

But you know I can see the pain in her face and cant help but feel some compassion for her. I am certainly not in love with that image any more but feel sadness, some fear and validation.   

[Mutt]

I don't know your back story or all the players. I would say that my ex has tested my availability a couple of times over 14 months, just to see if I was there for an attachment. But she was more Waif than Witch / Queen. The physical and aesthetic changes, are likely from the attachment. Are you asking if she's looking if you are available as an attachment? Relationship recycle? You said you have been out a year, and are over this woman.