Question: Were you abused? and how did it start?

[Forestaken]

I am out of my r/s with my  uBPD+dOCDXw.  I've commented on these boards to beware of isolating behaviour by your BPD.  In my case, she first isolated me from friends, then family (we only socialize with her family).  Then the verbal, emotional abuse came, followed by physical and financial abuse. A "slow boil" over 20 years - final 9 years of hell.

Question for those who were abused: Does this pattern apply to you?

[thereishope]

Thank you for posting this.  I am looking forward to the responses you get because it's hard to be objective in my own situation.  I have experienced verbal/mental/emotional abuse, a few pushes/shoves, and one episode of knives being thrown across the kitchen in my direction... .That was months ago, and prompted me to leave, although I recycled and have been here ever since.  Now, it appears uBPDh is actually trying to work on his behavior, and when splitting happens, he walks away and leaves instead of being physically able to hurt me.  I only have to deal with the verbal stuff anymore... .but I do want to know if people think I should still be concerned about the physical side or not... .  I feel really dumb to be asking, like why in the world am I in this situation in the first place... .but it is what it is, I guess, at least for right now... .  Thanks again, Freedom.