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Hi 

Since my daughter with BPD has been diagnosed after her suicide attempt, it has been chaotic. My worst nightmare was when she was released from the hospital and I had to wait two weeks before she would start therapy sessions. She has a personal therapy and teaching lessons on the subject of anxiety, depression and how to handle emotions. We survived. Her therapist was perfect for her and her sessions has clarified how and why she felt the way she did. Good news: she is not suicidal anymore. She fully understands what got her there to begin with.

Last week, I met with my daughter and her therapist for two hours. It was the most productive sessions I ever done. Since I was always doing the validation technique with my daughter, I could not really express what I felt or thought. In this session, the therapist wanted both side of each subject we covered. I came out of the session totally relieved. My daughter will always have an intense personality with convictions and passions. If she comes to an intense crisis, she will always have a tendency towards BPD but now she is accumulating tools to deal with it herself. I am not in high stress mode anymore. My daughter has healthy goals and is working hard to attain them. This morning I could tell something was bothering her and I was able to ask if she was OK. She responded she was ok and I was able to walk away. This might sound silly to you but for me... .it is a relief. My tendency to be over concern is calming down. She got a part time job instead of a heavy stressful full time job. That was a relief as well.

I wanted to post this because this site has been a great place to seek help and I was grateful for all of you. It also showed me the blessing when a BPD person desire treatment.

You helped me divide my pain when I first shared... now you are helping me multiply my joy.

Marie-Louise

[Marie-Louise]

Hi 

Since my daughter with BPD has been diagnosed after her suicide attempt, it has been chaotic. My worst nightmare was when she was released from the hospital and I had to wait two weeks before she would start therapy sessions. She has a personal therapy and teaching lessons on the subject of anxiety, depression and how to handle emotions. We survived. Her therapist was perfect for her and her sessions has clarified how and why she felt the way she did. Good news: she is not suicidal anymore. She fully understands what got her there to begin with.

Last week, I met with my daughter and her therapist for two hours. It was the most productive sessions I ever done. Since I was always doing the validation technique with my daughter, I could not really express what I felt or thought. In this session, the therapist wanted both side of each subject we covered. I came out of the session totally relieved. My daughter will always have an intense personality with convictions and passions. If she comes to an intense crisis, she will always have a tendency towards BPD but now she is accumulating tools to deal with it herself. I am not in high stress mode anymore. My daughter has healthy goals and is working hard to attain them. This morning I could tell something was bothering her and I was able to ask if she was OK. She responded she was ok and I was able to walk away. This might sound silly to you but for me... .it is a relief. My tendency to be over concern is calming down. She got a part time job instead of a heavy stressful full time job. That was a relief as well.

I wanted to post this because this site has been a great place to seek help and I was grateful for all of you. It also showed me the blessing when a BPD person desire treatment.

You helped me divide my pain when I first shared... now you are helping me multiply my joy.

Marie-Louise

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[madmom]

Congratulations and continued best wishes for more healing!

[lbjnltx]

What a beautiful message of gratitude, hope, and healing Marie-Louise.

Thank you for sharing it with us.

I wish you many more moments of progress and healing going forward.

lbj

[Marie-Louise]

Thanks,

I realise that the journey is not done but it is in a better place.

Marie-Louise

[lbjnltx]

What is the next step of your journey?  How can we help?


lbj

[Marie-Louise]

Hi Lbj,

My next step is to find a support group for parents of Bpd. I am attending a support group for parent's of children with mental illness close to home. Hopefully I could find another couple experiencing the struggles with a Bpd child. This board is great. Being an extrovert, I need more contact and support.

My daughter is in a session during the day at the hospital. She has a therapist now but will be assigned another therapist once the sessions are over until she starts the Bpd sessions specifically. That will start at the same time my husband and I will be starting sessions for family members of Bpd. Looking forward to see how much I will learn. It is a 12 week program of three hours per week.

My mother is in serious physical condition in the midst of this chaos. The stress has been intense. I am hoping to take more care of myself to finally unwind and regroup. I am learning what relaxes me and what I need. My husband took me out to get a hair cut and then we watched a hockey game in a bar. It felt nice just enjoying the evening. I am searching for more ideas like those.

I might go to a walk-in clinic to see if I could have a therapist for myself to get me through this part of the journey. My health is not the strongest and I need to take care of that as well.

These are my ideas.

Marie-Louise