I think my adult child may have borderline personality disorder

[woodledge1]

 I think my adult child may have borderline personality disorder... .just wanting to connect with somebody that may be going through the same thing, and can answer some questions

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[livednlearned]

Hi woodledge1,

Welcome to the site! There are a lot of parents here on this board who have an adult child with BPD or BPD traits so you're in the right place. How old is your child? Is your child in contact with you, or perhaps even living with you?

I found loving someone with BPD was challenging, but the isolation and not having others who understand what I was going through made things all the more difficult. Somewhere I read that kids with BPD are the "5%" children and their needs are not the same as the 95%. This can be very isolating for us, the parents, and that can lead to guilt and other feelings that can really weigh on our shoulders.

This site has a lot of wonderful peer support. I continue to learn things from other members, including in the Tools and Lessons to the right (in the side bar).

Are there specific behaviors that you're dealing with? Have you been reading up on BPD and found any solutions that work? There are not a lot of books about BPD carers so hopefully you find something here that can provide support.

You're definitely not alone and people here really do care (and understand).



LnL

[madmom]

Welcome woodledge1--I am the parent of a 27 year old daughter with BPD.  I have found this site to be very beneficial in many ways and I hope you do also.  Having a child with this disorder is very challenging, but you are not alone.  Can you tell us a little more about your situation.  How old is your child, what problems are you having.  What do you want help and support with? 

[kelti1972]

Hi and Welcome!

There is lots of information and tools on this site to help.  You are not alone! Kelti