Overly whelmed

[Claudie]

Hello ... .   just need to know if others feel as I do ?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lbjnltx]

Used to have feelings of being overwhelmed.  It stunk!

[Claudie]

  I just don't ever know what to say to her ... .It's really exhausting ... .I just want to talk to parents and maybe get different views of this disorder ... .

[lbjnltx]

You are in the right place Claudie.

How old is your daughter?  Has she been diagnosed with BPD?

[kelti1972]

Hi Honey15:  Yes I definently have and still do, at times, feel overwhelmed.  There is alot of support here and knowledge. Kelti

[Claudie]

She is 23 and it fluctuates but lately ... .

[Claudie]

She is 23 and it fluctuates but lately ... .

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[AVR1962]

Yes, I have found it difficult and overwhelming at times. There have been times thru the years where we can coast but it seems with time it has become a relationship where I have felt more obligation to keep contact and trying to be fair knowing that my daughter's feelings towards me are not good. I have tried in every way to understand and support my daughter but feel I have failed. Daughter is now 34 and I have finally gotten to a point where I can say to myself that this is not about me and I no longer have to be a part of it. I wish her all the best and hope one day we can have a relationship where she is no longer angry and blaming me. Until that day the relationship is one sided and relationships do not do well if one is trying and the other is resisting.

[Claudie]

Wow ,, I'm just praying and hope she gets better... .She blames me for everything also ... I'm a punching bag and I do cherish the good moments we have .  Wondering if we should help her get into a in stay therapy center ... .What advise do you have on that ? I feel so helpless

[lbjnltx]

Has she tried outpatient therapy yet?  If so, what kind and how long?

[Claudie]

Out patient with counselor yes but she doesn't stick to it ... .She hasn't in awhile ... She has phychiatrist but he only sees her for 15 mins or so and laters

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[jaynebrain]

Yes, totally overwhelmed a lot of the time.  Periods of rest and then off we go again... .praying for you all 

[jaynebrain]

My DD seemed to be doing very well - graduated from DBT and apparently needed treatment for Complex PTSD (still trying to understand that piece) and now the regression is huge and real and big and scary.  So are the medical bills.  No time to breathe, so tired and worn out.

[satahal]

Yes, overwhelmed and having anxiety attacks. Things have been going well and then we talk and I hear that depressed, flat voice back again and my heart sinks. How to manage and be happy with her well-being so precarious?