Now I see a posting on social media that she needs to move the minis--she tends to feud with people. Don't know how she is paying for hay, vet etc. It's her problem. I doubt I get a frantic call for financial bailout again, but if I do, I know I need continuing support. Thanks!
Welcome back, jaya
You are on the right track, I think... .It's hard to witness our child self-destruct right before our very eyes, but when that child is an adult, living on his/her own, and not looking for our advice, we do need to step back and see if he/she can figure it all out.
At best, if you
do get that frantic call for financial help, you could use S.E.T. to handle the situation:
S=Support: ":)aughter, I'm so sorry that things haven't worked out for you the way you'd hoped... ."
E=Empathy: "If that happened to me, I would also be frantic and upset... ."
T=Truth: "I'm here for you as an emotional support system, and do care, though I cannot help financially... ."
Or something like that, maybe?