Gf is controlling my life

[Jackson88]

My gf has an anxiety disorder I'm constantly walking on egg shells she says we're not dating yet I support her and I'm going broke an I'm scared to talk to her I've tried but it triggers her and she's physical it's hard she has rage and I go blank and it doesn't get better I never say the right thing I'm always wrong, she currently going to meeting for it with is great and on Trazodone and allot of benzos which she makes me buy I find them but I'm broke I give her presents I'm the most patient person ever try n make evey thin perfect for her. It's killing me I don't talk to Any of my friends anymore I need help

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[Turkish]

Hi Jackson88,

What do you mean that she gets physical, shoving, hitting, throwing things? What do you think triggers this, orvisvit hard to tell?

Turkish

[Samuel S.]

Seeing that you are on the staying board, how can you maintain your relationship with your GF along with not having to walk on egg shells?

[Jackson88]

Ya like punches slaps whenever she doesn't get her way or I "forget" something and as if it's my responsibility do to all these little things

[Turkish]

Ya like punches slaps whenever she doesn't get her way or I "forget" something and as if it's my responsibility do to all these little things

Hi Jackson88,

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's so hard to tip-toe around not getting punched or slapped for... .well, any reason whatsoever. Do you feel safe?

It's good to have a plan in place as a way to keep yourself that way. DV, especially against men, can turn on you quickly. We've seen in happen here, and you certainly should need to feel afraid. A safety plan is good to have. Reading through this pamphlet may help:

Safety First

We also have a discussion here on domestic violence against men, where you can see that you are not alone:

TOOLS: Domestic Violence Against Men

What's your immediate, most pressing concern right now?