wanted to share some good news for a change... .
after a horrible week week my wife is showing signs that she is willing not only to go to MC but really work on our marriage. Our MC sent us each a link for a survey that we needed to take which consists of 400 questions that will give him a snapshot of where we are... .she actually did this yesterday
We were discussing some issues. She asked me a question and I asked her if I could save it for our session and discuss it there and she agreed to that. I knew if I would have stated my issue right there she would have been triggered.
I went to the MC by myself on Friday and really was impressed with him. He takes no sides. We discussed BPD for about 15 minutes. I wanted him to know that I am wanting to work on myself. I do realize that I have to work on boundaries for myself. I understand that setting and enforcing boundaries will either strengthen our relationship or drive us apart. That is the fear I need to get over. I have watched my wife set boundaries for herself. The boundaries that she has established for herself are to protect her, they cause me pain but to her they keep her safe.
