Good thoughts to consider, thisworld, thank you. I didn't want to involve 'his' friends, because he will hold it against me until the end of time :'( None of my friends or family will come near him. I will talk to the priest and see what she suggests. I do not particularly care for this priest, but uBPD has gone to her for counsel on our situation before, so I thought she might be someone he feels comfortable with.
I keep reminding myself that the children's (and my!) mental health is more important than the temporary loss of our healthful lifestyle. They will still come back here for visitation. If he is reasonable, he will let me take some of the food we have preserved, if not that is OK too.
C.Stein, I am currently working on my ducks
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. Things are starting to fall into place so I am starting to stress about the actual 'leaving' event. I am normally an extremely calm person, but this is all putting me over the edge! I am not used to anxiety at this level - just the normal BPD level ha ha. I think if I can manage 9 unmedicated homebirths, I can use those skills to deal with this anxiety! It just kind of came on without notice and I wasn't prepared.