Anyhow, my son being there was horrible. I mean, she couldn't pick a better time? she was all about protecting him, but he seen his dad walked off by police. Not to mention, when I went to walk out of the house, the cop says "your wife and son are to the right. DO NOT make eye contact or even look that way. I was in TEARS. Then to walk out and hear my son say ":)ADA!" crushed me.
:'(
I'm so sorry Jax. This is hard to read. I have a son, too, and this would break my heart to pieces.
Have you made any plans about what you will do next?
False allegations of DV are sadly something that can go with these relationships. There are psychological reasons for why, though more importantly, right now it's a good idea to focus on protecting yourself so that you can have a continued relationship with your son.
I am not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice, even so the way protective orders often work is that in many states injunctions are very easily granted to err on the side that there is in fact a case of DV. Then, there is usually a hearing where both parties are invited to state what happened.
In some states (assuming you are in the US?) the person who filed the injunction can
not contact the person she or he filed the protection order against. In some states, that is not the case. This is important when BPD is involved, because you do not want to be accused of contacting her when it was in fact her contacting you.
This might be a good topic to post on the Family Legal board -- there are a lot of people there who have experienced what you are going through.
The important (and hard) thing to do right now is try to get centered and gather information so that this escalation does not get worse for you.
We're here for you.
LnL
