Hello,
I have been through this journey of BPD with my daughter. I feel myself becoming lost within. I can be a tough love giver, but as I try to "rescue" her from her poor choices, I feel regret because there is no appreciation, gratitude or respect. I was always her "safe" person, thus I endured most of the outbursts.
Now she is an adult living at home, but will randomly verbally attack us.
I am trying to set boundaries, but how do I know if I am just being vengeful vs setting boundaries and consequences?
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