Applemom
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
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« on: April 13, 2016, 12:49:33 PM » |
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I'm pleased to have found this support group. My 32-year old daughter has just been diagnosed with BPD (for the 3rd time). Over the years she has seen multiple psychiatrists and psychotherapists, some have diagnosed her with BPD, then changed her Dx to Bipolar, then changed it back. Since about the age of 17, she has been hospitalized 4 times (most recently last Friday through yesterday). This time she has good insurance so she received thorough care, and her Dx is PTSD, Bipolar and BPD. She is on a number of medications, according to my daughter (Remeron, Depakote, Klonopin, and others). She will be going for intensive outpatient therapy 3x/week starting week after next (not sure why she has to go for another evaluation at a different hospital on the 21st to be accepted into this therapy). I wish she were starting today. It's so frustrating that there is a good chance she will backslide from her progress by the time she starts that OP therapy.
Her father (we divorced in 1992) committed suicide in 2012, in 2014, she almost lost her baby during labor & delivery, later he was in NICU (almost lost him then too), then my 87-year old parents (her grandparents) died within 5 months of each other (between 9/2015 and 1/2016) so even though she has been doing weekly psychotherapy visits and seeing a psychiatrist, she had a major episode last Friday, and was saying she didn't want to live. That's when I took her to the Behavioral Health Hospital. Her biggest trigger is the father of her 21-month old son. It's a long story. She lives with a woman who she calls her girlfriend (has been in this stormy relationship for approx. 5 yrs). After her father died in 2012, she fell for a male friend (21 years older), and convinced him to "give" her a baby, which she has always wanted. At first they said they were using artificial insemination but then later I found out they had a physical relationship, and that's how my grandson was conceived. The girlfriend didn't know about that reality until recently, but still she stays. Baby's father claims he is gay, because he has lived with a man for 18 years (separate bedrooms) and calls him "his boyfriend," but ":)ad" was married once years ago for a long time and had a baby with her (young woman now is in her 20's), then he later came out as gay, but obviously he is bi-sexual. So my daughter is obsessed with ":)ad" who claims he doesn't love her in the same way, except his behavior says something different. He spends nearly every free minute with her and the baby and our extended family when we all get together. Her girlfriend puts up with this, and so does his boyfriend, who is never included in any of this.
I got blasted out of the blue this morning by her because I said "no" to something she asked me to do that was extremely inconvenient for me because I'm working today. So she is mad at me. My feelings are hurt, but I know better than to let her know that, and I stood my ground with this boundary (sticking to the "no".
I have started a journal, because my husband (her step-dad) doesn't really understand because he hasn't done the reading I have done and kind of takes a backseat with most of the struggles, although he was in the thick of it during her teens and 20's. So I can talk to him but he doesn't really seem to know how to help. I just need people who know about BPD to talk to when things are tough. I'm worn out and tired of feeling hurt when she turns on me (which isn't that often anymore, but still, when she does, it's hard).
Thanks for listening and for being here. I'm hopeful.
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