BPD mother,sister,brother

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Hi- So I have been here before but could not remember my name or pw. Then I was dealing w/an SO w/BPD. Now my alcoholic father has recently passed away & I have been having to deal with the rest of my dysfunctional/BPD family members. My brother hates me for no reason & excludes me from family gatherings. I have no idea what I did to merit this treatment. He has always been really strange. My sister punishes me by not answering the phone or calling me back when I displease her, again, I usually have no idea what I did. She also has strange ailments that she claims cause her great pain but nobody knows what it is or what is causing it. My mother is now punishing me because she and my brother did something that was very upsetting to me & when I dared to tell them that it wasn't alright they decided to shun me by not answering the phone when I call. I found out they were doing this from my aunt, whom I called when I could not get ahold of my mom. She is elderly & I was worried that something had happened to her. On top of my father's death, their behavior has been upsetting to say the least. I don't know what to tell my children about their behavior. My fiancee' finds their behavior very strange and is upset on my behalf. I could never treat my children the way my parents have treated me, no matter what they did. I actually find myself envying people who don't have any family. I am so tired of dealing with their crap.

[ladantha]

Hi- So I have been here before but could not remember my name or pw. Then I was dealing w/an SO w/BPD. Now my alcoholic father has recently passed away & I have been having to deal with the rest of my dysfunctional/BPD family members. My brother hates me for no reason & excludes me from family gatherings. I have no idea what I did to merit this treatment. He has always been really strange. My sister punishes me by not answering the phone or calling me back when I displease her, again, I usually have no idea what I did. She also has strange ailments that she claims cause her great pain but nobody knows what it is or what is causing it. My mother is now punishing me because she and my brother did something that was very upsetting to me & when I dared to tell them that it wasn't alright they decided to shun me by not answering the phone when I call. I found out they were doing this from my aunt, whom I called when I could not get ahold of my mom. She is elderly & I was worried that something had happened to her. On top of my father's death, their behavior has been upsetting to say the least. I don't know what to tell my children about their behavior. My fiancee' finds their behavior very strange and is upset on my behalf. I could never treat my children the way my parents have treated me, no matter what they did. I actually find myself envying people who don't have any family. I am so tired of dealing with their crap.

[Kwamina]

Hi ladantha

Welcome (back) here

I am sorry to hear that about your dad, my condolences. He was an alcoholic which is already quite tough to deal with and now you are also dealing with his passing.

Unfortunately your other family-members are making an already difficult time even harder for you. You mention your brother has always been really strange, could you give us some more examples of his strange behavior?

The way your brother, sister and mother are treating you is quite unpleasant indeed. Excluding you and 'punishing' you by not answering your calls is hurtful indeed. Did all of these family-members always behave this way? You now know about BPD and classify them as BPD. When did you really start to become aware that there is something wrong with your family-members behavior?