I found more personal growth and relaxation in helping others.
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It's not a secret that many of us (if not all!) are commonly known as empaths. We like to help others too much (too much is when you start to sacrifice parts of yourself for the benefit of others - so yes, there's such a thing).
there is a lot of personal growth and relaxation in helping others. thats an inevitable part of human nature and connectedness. its what makes the world go round. and theres a lot of benefit to doing it here as anywhere else. i think youll find yourself writing things you didnt know you know or felt, and connecting them to your own detachment process. it helps you measure what youve learned and how far youve come. it also builds your empathy and how you express it. it gives meaning to your experience in the sense that you can use it for the benefit of someone else. thats a beautiful thing.
maybe its not so much a problem of liking to help others too much, but how we define "help". friends have always come to me for advice or a shoulder to cry on. i like that about me. what i like less is that i realized my idea of "help" was in some ways "control", in some ways a dysfunctional way of getting needs met, and neglecting other needs. i like to think ive since redirected my efforts toward what it really means to help the best i can. that may not mean telling anyone what i think they should do. it may mean less involvement than id have paid before. it may mean just listening or asking questions, making the person feel heard and connected. it does mean having boundaries, and knowing my limits, and others' limits.
So I started thinking about the fact I'm a good sketcher. I like art. But I've been lacking motivation.
So I'm wondering if I could somehow bring my art and my empath needs together to make something constructive of myself!
I'm personally going to work on a children's book
take a look at the stages of detachment to the right -------> and youll find that number four is "creative action". its a wonderful idea, Cleanglass, and i can tell you have put a lot of thought into it already. that kind of drive, you will find, results in some of our greatest, truest works, and likewise gives our experience meaning.
im a musician and on some days a writer
. after my breakup, it took a while, but i began writing pieces of prose. in a similar way, i found myself expressing things i couldnt have otherwise articulated, or that i wasnt aware i knew or felt, and theres a lot of insight and power that results from that process. they were a very good measure of my detachment; i found that by the time i was done writing, i was mostly "over" the relationship and had done most of my processing.
im a huge believer in creative action as part of the process of detaching. i sense your passion, and im very excited for you. best of luck in this endeavor, and do keep us posted on your progress.
