Trust issues and controlling behaviors have destroyed more than a few relationships around here, mine included.
That being said, the best advice that I have to give you is to take a step back to give her some time and space, breath, and focus on you and why you have trust and control issues.
It might help to know a little bit more about what happened during your relationship that lead up to this breakup. Can you give us more detail so that we can understand your situation a bit better?
Why do you think that she has BPD? Has she been diagnosed?
