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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Author Topic: Do they ever stop trying to trigger you into a fight?  (Read 522 times)
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« on: October 30, 2016, 04:35:43 PM »

No... .Really ?
Bpdex has a new relationship... .
... .and should be "happy".
Then why constantly try trigger me into a argument?
She might as well try to argue with an ice cube... .
... I've done this for too long and hence the cold state.
Just not my place anymore...
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« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2016, 04:52:04 PM »

Answer: no
Why?  The need to win, the need for attention, the need to make your life suck.  Because you rejected your ex and now you need to suuufffeeerrrrr!  Basically.
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« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2016, 05:43:20 PM »

In my situation the answer is no.

Theatrics, chaos and drama are still my exgf favorite choice of behaviour. She maybe a good actress or some profession that demands a lot of attention. Now that I think about it, isn't this what children do?
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« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2016, 05:51:48 PM »

You feel bad and ashamed after participating in a fight. Especially when you escalated.
They dont have such feelings.
They start fighting hoping that you escalate.
So that they can guilttrip you later back into the relation.

Bsides, they are fighting all there life. They are more than experienced  fighters and with no boundaries.
You loose most of times.
And if you win they can act being a victim very convincingly.
So even if you won the fight, you are going to loose the war.

Answering the question: no they never stop triggering you into a fight. Because they always win.
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« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2016, 05:54:11 PM »

Then why constantly try trigger me into a argument?

To see if an emotional attachment is still in place, any emotional reaction will confirm it, and anger can be easier to trigger than other emotions.

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She might as well try to argue with an ice cube... .
... I've done this for too long and hence the cold state.
Just not my place anymore...

Nice!  A cold, unemotional state is the best tack if you want to detach from her.  Is that a state you can go to when you need to, and because you're used to it Bushido, or do you honestly feel that way full time?
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