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[Giftmomma]

Hello Everyone- newbie here. Our daughter (adopted at 15, now mid-20s, currently in-patient) has been diagnosed with BPD, DID, depression NOS, gen. anxiety. Our lives have been completely turned upside down the past few years. New to mental illness, we struggle with helping her feel loved and accepted and having to protect our littles at home. Has anyone found a good balance?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Turkish]

Hello  Giftmomma,

It can be hard to find balance when one child suffers from mental illness,  especially when other children are involved. I'm adopted (though at 2.4 years old). Hanging around other adoptive families later,  I witnessed the struggles,  and it must be very hard to deal with this after opening up your life and home to a child who didn't have parents of her own in her life. 

How old are her siblings,  and are they bio, or adopted as well?  What events led up to her being hospitalized? 

Turkish

[livednlearned]

Hi Giftmomma,

I wanted to join Turkish in welcoming you.

Those are big diagnoses, I can understand why you feel your life has been turned upside down. The disordered behavior upsets our lives, and learning about what the diagnoses mean and how to take care of ourselves helps to slowly bring back some of that balance you mention.

We are here to walk alongside you and keep you company.

How long has she been in-patient? Is she being treated for BPD?

Do you have support at home, or from family and friends, to help you hold steady?

LnL