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« on: February 13, 2017, 09:41:19 PM »

 How are people with borderline/Narc tendencies in therapy? My ex was in therapy during our relationship but she went to a male therapist and there relationship seemed extremely unprofessional almost like she was seducing him. She knew about his sexual past, marriages, that he was in AA recovery it all seemed a bit strange to me and she would tell me he would tell her he didn't even think she needed therapy and was a very "enlightened individual" which made me feel even crazier wondering if I was the problem. He would text her things like "you left your earrings in my office" just very bizarre things that didn't seem okay. Is this common amongst BPD?
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« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2017, 01:22:13 AM »

Hard to say. My ex often made up completely fabricated stories about supposed conversations with members of the opposite sex and just people in general. After a while I learned about triangulating. My ex also liked to leave his belongings places as it seemed to always be a valid excuse for a return trip... .or perhaps that was just innocent in some cases or part of his ADHD.

Over 4 years and MULTIPLE therapists of all flavours I don't believe my ex has been honest with a single one - he has lied to them about being gang raped, completely twists reality to his feeling of the moment, omits pertinent facts specific to the type of counselling (ie: last time he relapsed either with drugs or porn/affairs) etc.
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« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2017, 06:06:30 AM »

It sounds very unprofessional to me, the T crossed the line into personal life it seems. I think any skilled krafty BPD/NPD can fool any professional. Xw went to 6 sessions with a T just before family court
And got a glowing letter stating what a together person my Xw is and that I was displaying actions trying to discredit her Bc she had a BF in her life. She has her lawyers fooled as well. They are incapable of being honest so they never get to the root cause. Fool the T and go on there normal, happy way.
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« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2017, 01:05:35 PM »

I've been learning about BPD/NPD, sociopaths and etc. for almost 3 years. I already vomiting from this crazy "brotherhood". It is only in the beginning you have a lot of hope about this caster and changing them. Now I understand that I have to change myself not them. They are who they are. The only one treatment fro them is "silver bullet therapy". Your ex could seduce therapist. If not therapist, then clerk in the bank, if not clerk then gym instructor and etc. and etc. Pig will always find a dirt.
 Guys, take care of yourself! stop thinking about them in therapy. Think about how you got in this relationship. You have tendency to get to same place again.
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« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2017, 01:52:13 PM »

Mine went to a counselor and just complained about me and wouldn't tell the whole story or anything about her part. I would dread her going because every time she would come back and unload on me about how everything was my fault and the counselor said I was abusive. She played no part in the demise of the rs in any way LOL. Pure craziness!
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