Hello Storm cloud and
I think anyone in your position would be tired of hearing repetition of things from decades in the past, especially when accompanied by rages and with no real sense of moving forward or resolution. Sounds like this has happened frequently; would you categorize these rages as
circular arguments, or something else?
Does your 30YO live at home? Do you have any other kids (or anyone else besides you and your husband) living at home?
Has your 30YO received an official diagnosis? If so, is your child accepting of the diagnosis (or denying it), in treatment, compliant with treatment, rejecting treatment...?
What does your in-person support system look like right now? Do you have understanding family members, supportive friends, a therapist?
These are such difficult family relationships. It's no wonder you're at the end of your rope
Glad we can be here for you -- we get it.
kells76