Need advise...

[BFHurting]

Good afternoon - I am new to this family.  I have been in a romantic relationship with a wonderful man for 5 years.  I see the struggle with mental illness but until the last 6 months I did not know/realize that it was BPD.  I have been trying to learn as much as I can reading websites and books.  This past week or 2 there has been undue stress at work.  From what I have read, he is in a transient, stress related paranoia/dissociative attack.  I have always stood by his side and plan too, but he took out an order of protection on me and kicked me and my kids out to the house that we all live in.   He did tell me that his paranoia was going crazy and I asked how I could help - 2 days later this is what I got.   I am blind sided, hurt, etc.  I do not know how to proceed to talk to him or what to say or do to not make this worse, but to help him see and actual truth.  Open ears... .  trying to learn and help him and myself too. 

[acknowledgement]

Keep reading the info here. know we are here. know we have all been through similar experiences and survived. know you deserve better. keep a journal of all the irrationality and hurt and keep reading it for strength when you think you want to go back. Usually they do not change so you can either change or go back and expect more of the same. You need to decide if you want to live with the BPD... .