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[kentavr3]

So! Be careful with what your attorney said! Happened to me just in December. I changed attorney once, because I couldn't pay for the expensive one. I hired the cheap one. Result is the same. Not taking properly about my case. 'Shhh" this what all they said. And what now? I could get 50x50. But, attorney said me to sign before the hearing. He said , that he checked it. The court judgment would be better for me! I signed 40X60.with some really bad details. Do not sign! Find independent attorney to review your agreement. Agreement stays forever! You can't change it! Only critical circumstances can change it! Attorneys want to get their money. rare somebody comes back after a couple years. people starting leaving their life. But remember , your child is in hands of BPD. Child will adopt their style!

[ForeverDad]

I'm sorry to hear that.  Court is so adversarial and lawyers are like every profession, some good, some not so good.  For them it's a job but for us it's our lives and families.

We do encourage documentation of incidents.  Courts seem to mostly ignore the poor adult behaviors (how our ex treats us) but they do give greater attention to the parenting behaviors which impact the children.  Still, the courts will ignore the lesser infractions but do pursue the ones that are 'actionable'.  If we can demonstrate it's a pattern of behavior, court may see basis to adjust the order.  There are always a few gotchas and a return to court to iron those out is not uncommon.  I filed a Contempt of Court soon after my Final Decree, she violated the new order that quickly.  There is also Change of Circumstances for major changes, generally an order can't be contested too quickly - unless urgent - it may take a year or two before major features of the order can be challenged.  The point is you don't have to resign yourself to living indefinitely with a bad order.