Going nuts, divorcing BPD wife and now daughter is acting NPD

[Marc33]

I need help!

I am in the middle of a messy divorce with my BPD wife.  I am fighting for custody of our four daughters and we have just started to meet with the clinical psychologist who will be submitting his report to the court on who he feels should have custody.  It is a very critical and sensitive time of the proceedings.

My 14 year old daughter is showing many signs of NPD, for instance, she has no remorse for taking anything from the other kids, she will relentlessly tease and bother them etc.

How do I control her when she is making my other kids crazy?  How can I stop her from her attacks but at the same time not create a rift between us?  I don't want to alienate her but I am afraid that if I have to discipline her she will not want anything to do with me.

How can I deal with her?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi Marc33

I think in your situation I'd consult a therapist specialising in NPD for advice how to manage your 14DD as you say you don't want to alienate her and demonstrating your awareness and care may help you down the line regards custody? When you say you have just started to meet the clinical psychologist does that include your daughters?

WDx