Drugs

[heronbird]

Hello

Well, I havent been on here for a long time. I missed it, such a good forum.

Dont know if anyone still here that I know from before.

Now I have a problem with dd, it never ends but I dont know how much more I can take. She met a man in hospital a year ago, he wouldnt stop pestering her, so she went out with him, it was on and off. The doctor warned her against the relationship. I never knew why.

Anyway, he got her into heroin, not just his fault I know, but she is so vulnerable. So now, after being with him on and off for a year, she has finally realised he was really bad for her and manipulative. He has BPD

She left him 3 days ago, shes in a mess. Its so sad to see her like this. He was a bit like a drug to her I think.
It came to light today that he was buying the heroin for her, now she hasnt got him, she cant afford it.
Shes talking about drastic measures to get money. Its such a shock and so scary.
She cant stop taking it as she is hooked, she says she cant cope with the withdrawal. She cant get Methadone for two weeks, thats when her appointment is. There really is no help out there. Its so horrible.

Her bf told her that if she does the heroin at a certain time, she wont get addicted, she believed that! He told her she would be nothing without him. And she wasnt allowed to tell us anything or we would disown her and throw her on the streets. I was tempted, but now shes trying, I wont. She needs us so much right now.

Its really hard, and its also difficult as I cant speak about it to anyone. No one would understand would they. They would say, shes stupid and just a druggie waste of space.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Kwamina]

Hi heronbird

Though I'm not from Parenting, I do remember you!

I am sorry to hear this about your daughter and her current heroin addiction. You have already been through a lot with her and if I'm not mistaken your daughter received DBT for her own BPD. You had some doubts back then about the DBT and your daughter was frustrated too because the people treating her at times appeared to lack competence. Is your daughter currently still getting any kind of targeted treatment for her BPD?

That boyfriend she had, did he also use heroine himself? Or did he only make your daughter take heroin?

No one would understand would they. They would say, shes stupid and just a druggie waste of space.

People can say a lot of things, but no matter what they might or might not say, no words of them can define your daughter or determine her worth. Your daughter definitely isn't a waste of space. No matter what she does or how many mistakes she makes, she is still a precious human being.

I am glad you do believe she is trying to get better and I am also glad you are still there to support her.

The Board Parrot