My wife with BPD

[winter_42]

Hi,
This is my first post here.
I am married to a woman with BPD, and I find it hard right now.
She got worse right before we married in 2015, and I had no clue she suffered with this personality disorder.
I knew she was struggeling with eating disorder, bulimia, but the gullible me thought she had overcome that.
The life after she was committed the first time has been a rollercoaster.
A little about me; I'm 42 years old , live in Norway, have 2 beautiful daughters 5,5 years and 3 months old.
My wife is 34 and have been struggeling with depressions since childhood.

I come here to talk to persons with the same struggles as I, and maybe get some good advices how to cope.

Pardon for my spelling mistakes, as english is not my first language.

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[pearlsw]

Hi winter_42,



Sorry to hear you are having a hard time right now! Is she currently committed to a treatment facility or do I misunderstand you? What is going on these days that making things so difficult?

There is a lot of helpful information here that can make life better. How long have you known she has BPD in addition to the depression?

wishing you peace, pearlsw.

p.s. No worries about your English! It's just fine!

[LegioXX Victrix]

Dialectic Behavioral Therapy has the highest success rate of treating BPD’s. Education and your own therapist is highly recommended and get a solid support network.

Practice mindfulness and detachment ( the second is very hard I have been in your shoes)